How to benefit from negative rumination: 3 steps
Reflection, ‘self-digging’, self-analysis – many people find these activities pointless or even a harmful waste of time. In fact, this process can be a powerful impetus for our growth and development. If we approach such reflections consciously, they can be a very useful tool for learning about ourselves. A recent study has shown that reflection […]
5 fears that prevent us from asking for help
It would seem that there is nothing wrong with asking for help, because everyone has difficulties. But when you have to ask someone for a favour, many people are embarrassed, take a long time to gather their courage and struggle to find the right words. A psychologist explains why this happens and tells you how […]
5 steps to regain the meaning of life
You don’t feel like doing anything. You feel empty. You have a lot to thank fate for, but you don’t feel grateful. Our author, who once found herself in such a situation, tells us what helped her get back to life. PERSONAL EXPERIENCE People around me are used to the fact that I work hard, […]
Happiness: 5 rules you don’t know about
The more persistently we chase happiness, the less chance we have of finding it. That’s the conclusion a happiness expert has drawn from his research. And here’s what he suggests in return. Many studies show: the key to happiness is a clear understanding of your goals. From childhood, we are taught that we should set […]
Everything for yourself, nothing for others: why selfishness is actually useful
How many times throughout our lives have we heard the phrase, “What a selfish person!” And it sounds distinctly disapproving. So what’s wrong with putting yourself first? And is selfishness really such a bad quality to get rid of? An altruist is a person who cares about other people and is always ready to help […]
10 quotes from modern psychologists about happiness and its secrets
In honour of the International Day of Happiness, we studied books and interviews of popular today’s experts – Alfried Langlais, Igor Kon, Lyudmila Petranovskaya, Mikhail Labkovsky, Alexander Shakhov – to find the key to real happiness. Every day many of us wonder: are they happy? If yes, what is this feeling? And if not, what […]
What your social network profile is hiding: 8 types of users
Today, to get to know a person better, it is enough to study their social networks. When making a new acquaintance, the first thing we do is find his or her profiles and scrutinise the information: photos, common acquaintances, subscriptions. The account is our gift wrapping, an improved version, shown in the most favourable angle. […]
What is eldest daughter syndrome and what are its dangers?
Older and younger children grow up in different ways – and their lives are subsequently formed largely in accordance with the habits that they acquired in childhood. Psychologists believe that older daughters “get it” the most. First-born children, of course, come in many forms. One appears in a family when both parents are young and […]
Where to look for self-esteem: a guide from a psychologist
Many people unconsciously judge themselves for every slightest blunder, thereby destroying their emotional balance and self-esteem. A psychologist tells us why the tendency to a permanent sense of guilt and criticism develops. THE INNER CRITIC: WHERE DOES IT COME FROM…. The root cause of self-esteem problems is a childhood surrounded by critical relatives. From a […]
Questions that will change your life for the better: how to learn how to formulate them – coaching tips
Asking good questions is a valuable skill. You can use it to do really effective self-research, as well as to study the thinking of others. We present a chapter from Olga Rybina and Yuri Muradyan’s book “Do Like a Coach” (“Five Prisms”). In it, the authors share the rules for formulating coaching questions that will […]