What kind of ‘beast’ is a mature woman? Is it possible to consider yourself or, say, your friend as such? And is this state achievable at all? Our expert offers a checklist of psychological ‘adulthood’ as a reference point for those who seek to accumulate wisdom over the years.
A mature woman is a person who is able to find a balance between her needs and the needs of others. She is not dependent on constant external approval or support, but is open to co-operation and interaction.
She has a high level of emotional literacy, which allows her to manage her emotions and correctly interpret the feelings of others, and she is reflective and self-developed, constantly working to improve her skills and qualities. What other qualities a truly mature woman possesses, let’s explore with a psychoanalytic psychotherapist.
1. A MATURE WOMAN IS RESPONSIBLE
She takes responsibility for her decisions and actions without shifting blame to external circumstances or other people. In relationships, she strives for sincerity and depth, valuing trust and respect above fleeting pleasures. She is a person who clearly recognises her individuality and independence from others, understanding that her personality and destiny are unique.
2. SHE RECOGNISES IMPERFECTIONS
She recognises and accepts her own imperfections without feeling inferior or defective. She is not prone to simplistic and categorical evaluations, avoiding the division of the world into strictly opposite poles of good and evil. Realising that human nature is complex and multifaceted, she perceives people in their entirety, including both positive and negative qualities.
She sees others as they are, as individuals with their own unique view of the world, their own wants and needs. She does not see them as a mirror image of herself or as a vessel to which she can put all the negative things she tries to suppress inside: greed, envy, hostility, selfishness, cruelty, hypocrisy, and more. Instead, it recognises everyone’s individual characteristics.
3. A MATURE WOMAN IS INDEPENDENT AND SELF-CONFIDENT
Her ability to enjoy time alone allows her to regenerate and find inner peace. Her independence and self-confidence relieve her of the need to constantly seek support from others, making her an independent and self-sufficient person.
She has a strong sense of her own identity and integrity that is not eroded by the thoughts, desires and qualities of others.
4. SHE IS A CRITICAL THINKER
She recognises the authority of experts in certain fields, respects their knowledge and experience, but does not take their words on faith without critical reflection. She combines respect for expert opinion with independent thinking and a desire to search for truth. She is not afraid to ask questions and express doubts if she feels that a deeper understanding of an issue is needed.
She is able to be proactive and initiate change with initiative and determination. However, she is also able to adapt to situations that require passivity or patient waiting, while maintaining her inner balance and inner supports.
5. KNOWS HOW TO SAY ‘NO.’
This applies both to saying no to others when her interests or principles are threatened and to self-control when she needs to give up something for her own benefit. The ability to set clear boundaries and defend her values helps her maintain inner harmony and respect for her own decisions.
6. FOR HER, COMPETITION IS NOT A REASON FOR HOSTILITY
It is an opportunity to test her strengths and learn something new. She does not avoid conflicts, preferring to resolve disagreements through open dialogue. The ability to defend her point of view allows her to protect her interests and principles without running away from problems.
The ability to let go, to forgive is an important quality she cultivates in herself. The ability to forgive herself for her mistakes and missteps allows her to move forward without getting stuck in the past. In the same way, she is able to forgive others, realising that no one is perfect and we all learn from our mistakes.
Trust is the basis of her ability to build strong and honest friendships with both men and women, and she never abuses the favour of her friends, respecting their boundaries and needs. She is also able to take responsibility for her actions and deeds without being afraid to admit her mistakes.
She is not attached to outdated behaviours or relationships that no longer bring joy and satisfaction. While the familiar and familiar may seem comfortable, she is not afraid to let go of what no longer serves her goals and interests. Instead, she actively seeks out new paths and opportunities, striving to find what will truly fulfil her inner needs and desires. This willingness to change and seek the best makes her life rich and full of meaning.
7. HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER MAN IS HARMONIOUS
A mature woman’s relationship is a harmonious union of two independent and confident individuals, rather than a merger in which personal boundaries become blurred and lost.
A mature partnership is based on the principles of equality, where each participant possesses both traditionally masculine and feminine character traits, which fosters deep mutual understanding and the sharing of joy and pleasure. Both partners are willing to give and sacrifice, but they are also open to embracing joy and accepting the other’s contribution to the relationship with sincere gratitude.
In matters of love, a mature woman is guided by the principle of harmony and common interests, choosing a partner close to her in age and life experience. This ensures better mutual understanding and common views on life, which contributes to the creation of strong and long-term relationships.